Artwork by Janou
Please See Me Through My Tears

You asked me 'How are you doing?'
As I told you, tears came to my eyes,
You immediately began to talk again,
as your eyes looked away from me,
Your speech picked up, and all the attention
you had given me went away.  How am I doing?

I do better when you listen to my response,
even though I may shed a tear or two,
for I want and need your attention,
But to be ignored, because I have pain in me
which is indescribable to anyone who has not been there
I hurt and feel angry, so when you look away,
I'm again all alone with it.

Really tears are not a bad sign you know,
They are natures way of helping me to heal,
They relieve some of the stress of sadness.
I know you fear that asking me how I am doing
might bring this sadness to me.

Oh no, you're so wrong, the memory of my loss
will always be with me, it's only a thought away.
It's just that my tears make my pain more visible to you,
but you did not give me this pain,  it's just there.
When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless?
You're not you know,
When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow,
you've helped me more than you know.
You need not verbalize your support of my tears,
Your silence as I cry is my key, Do not fear.
Your listening with your heart to 'How are you doing?'
helps relieve the pain, because once I allow
the tears to come and go, I feel lighter.
Talking to you releases things
I've been wanting to say out loud,
and then there's a space for a touch of joy in my life.
Honestly, when I tear up and cry,
that doesn't mean I'll cry forever
maybe just a minute of two -
then I'll wipe the tears away,
and sometimes you'll find I'm even laughing
at something funny ten minutes later.
When I hold back my tears, my throat grows tight,
my chest and my stomach begins to knot up,
because I am trying to protect you from my tears
Then we are both hurt - me because I've kept the pain inside
and it's a shield against our closeness,
and then you hurt because suddenly, we're distant.
Please take my hand and I promise not to cry forever,
It's physically impossible you know.

Please See Me Through My Tears...
Then We Can Be Close Again.

Author Unknown

Artwork by Janou
~Grace Noll Crowell~
Midi playing is "Crying"
Webset by Linda
Webset by Linda